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Welcome to Rethinking the American Dream.  We are an average family, living in a house and staying just within our means.  We are tired of that lifestyle.

We want more freedom, and we are hoping to create this freedom through reduced consumerism and moving towards a more minimalistic life.  We are planning to reduce our “stuff” so that we can easily move from our 4 bedroom, 3 bath house into a 2 bedroom, 2 bath apartment.

We did it!  In January 2012 we finally sold our house and moved into an apartment.  We are now closer to work, and have freed up time and money.  We are on our way to creating more experiences in our life!

We are giving up the house and much of the stuff inside to create more freedom.  We want to place a higher priority on life experiences and less priority on stuff.

Experiences > Stuff

This is very anti to everything that is normal in the United States.  Because of this we have chosen to take on secret identities.  We want to share our experiences, but like any good super hero, we have to keep our true identities secret so that we can maintain our new abnormally normal life in a state of peace.

You may wonder if we are so full of ego, that we consider ourselves to be super heroes.  That’s really not the case at all, we just figure it’s more fun to take on a hero like persona as we share our experiences in Rethinking the American Dream.

Freedom.  He is a husband and a father.  He has a good job that pays well above the national average.  He would consider this to put them in the middle class category.  He’s the big picture guy.  He’ll be sharing the overviews and the challenges as we progress.

Dream.  She is a wife and a mother.  She has chosen the path of a stay at home mom, so she could spend more time raising our daughter.  She also takes care of the home front, and I love her to pieces.  Dream is the details girl.  She’ll be sharing the smaller details, and will largely discuss the emotions involved in this process.

Faith.  She is a 6 year old little girl and is full of life.  She is living in the only house she has ever known.  She loves toys, yet understands that she can’t or won’t get everything she asks for.  She isn’t the typical uncontrolled consumerist, but she’s still far from a minimalist.  She won’t be doing much writing yet, but she is our constant source of inspiration to set experiences as the highest priority.

We are an average middle class family, about to embark on a decidedly un-average journey.  We have decided to give up the American Dream of home ownership.  We are purging all the useless crap from our lives.  We are planning to sell our house and move into an apartment.

We are doing this to gain more freedom and control in our lives.  We are freeing up money, but we are also freeing up our lives so that we can have more experiences.  Being tied to a house really limits the ability to move around, to travel, to do stuff on a whim.  There are so many worries tied to a house, it’s like a living near a constant precipice of disaster, and we want to escape that feeling.

Our ultimate goal is to make a return to the roots of the American Dream.  The origins for the American Dream are rooted in a freedom which includes a promise of prosperity and success.  Yet this success and prosperity have morphed into a rampant consumerism and quest for home ownership, which then limits our freedom.  Our goal is to return the freedom to our American Dream.

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Chase Night November 15, 2010 at 7:37 pm

Hey, cool site. I love the pseudonyms. I enjoy reading about the minimalist plunge from a family’s point of view. We’re not ready for a kid yet, but it’s nice to see that someone else is doing this with a child in tow for future reference!

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Freedom November 16, 2010 at 1:42 am

Hi Chase,
Thanks for the compliments. I found very few examples of families making the plunge, and so I decided to share some of our story as we progress on the path towards minimalism. It should be quite a journey, I hope you’ll stick around to see how things turn out.

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Colleen (365lessthings.com) December 4, 2010 at 11:04 pm

Hi Freedom, Dream and Faith,
I applaud what you are doing. It is sheer craziness to sacrifice freedom for possessions so I think you are on the right track. When looking for an apartment though make sure you find something that gives little Faith the freedom of the outdoors like a park nearby. I know a lot of families that move out of apartments and back into houses because there isn’t enough room for the kids to spread their wings.
I will be back often to see how you are progressing. I wish good luck and wisdom in choosing your new home.

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Freedom December 5, 2010 at 11:25 am

Hi Colleen,
Thanks for the advice. I need to see if the area we are looking at has any nice parks nearby, we hadn’t looked into that much yet, and we do enjoy spending time at some of the parks near our current home. I do know the apartment complexes we looked at had nice playgrounds and swimming pools, be we’ll definitely need some parks too.

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Laura :) December 13, 2010 at 1:48 am

I’m so happy to find your blog!! We are on the same path and can totally relate to the “American Dream of Home Ownership” crap!! lol!!! We sold our house earlier this year and we both said “whew!” I feel like we were sold a big lie….but maybe that’ just me.

Anyway, your writing and pictures are great!! I’m (working on making it a we thing) are just starting to declutter and purge and I love reading about others minimizing journeys!!

I’m adding you to my feed now!! :) Take care!!

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Freedom December 13, 2010 at 8:33 pm

Laura,
I’m happy to have you here. Congrats on selling the house! I’m looking forward to that freedom. Thanks for the compliments, and I’ll be following your decluttering and purging.

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Adam January 4, 2011 at 5:32 pm

It feels so great to find other families around the world who are choosing the same path we are. We live in Taiwan and started becoming more minimalist lastbyear and have seen a huge increase in our quality of life. I applaude you and your family for both deciding to be unconventional and for sharing your journey with the world. For me, that is one of the most important aspects of being minimalist, because living the “American Dream” is just not a sustainable lifestyle anymore, and as more “Americas” crop up around he world it will become less and less so. Our family has decided that we can do our part by giving up consumerism and trying to live a LOHAS life.
Good luck house hunting! When you find the apartment you wNt be sure to share details! We chose a new place close to a school as it meant we could use the playground like a park and reduce our driving.
I’ve added you to my feed!

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Freedom January 4, 2011 at 5:57 pm

Adam,
I feel the same. One of the reasons I started this blog was to connect with other families like us, giving up big spaces in exchange for more freedom. I look forward to seeing you around and I have subscribed to your blog as well. I’ll certainly share all the house sale and apartment hunting experiences when we get to that point.

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J February 12, 2011 at 2:21 am

My husband and I are in the military and we just finished our 4th move in 5 years. I have reached a point where I swear I will never unpack some of this stuff again. We also transitioned from a huge rental house to a small apartment and currently the entire contents of our garage are hanging out in our spare bedroom. In addition to the pain of unpacking and the stress of having too much stuff, we are paying hundreds of extra dollars in rent to live in a place big enough for all these possessions. How sad that we don’t have kids yet and need an extra bedroom for stuff! The home office story, the garage story, the book story…I can relate to them all. Thanks for the inspiration. We plan on downsizing for the next year and then moving to a place that will fit our lighter lifestyle.

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joanna k December 1, 2011 at 1:33 pm

Love your blog! I’m particularly inspired that you can make this change with a four-year-old girl in tow. There’s so much pressure for them to collect every doll and pink thing under the sun. Good for you to be teaching her these important lessons now. Way to go!
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Freedom December 1, 2011 at 9:07 pm

Hi Joanna,
Our daughter is a constant challenge as far as the minimalism goes. She often wins out when she wants those dolls and pink things, but we’re doing our best to guide her in the right direction. She craves adventure, and the purging, the planned move, and everything that is yet to come is a huge adventure that she is very excited about.

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Financial Samurai May 18, 2012 at 1:00 am

Good story and congrats!

Question though… what if you had several million bucks liquid? Would you still find it necessary to sell the house and downside if money wasn’t that big of an issue anymore?
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Freedom May 18, 2012 at 2:40 pm

That’s a good question to pose. If I had several million bucks liquid it might actually be a similar situation, but I wouldn’t be working my day job. I like what I do well enough, but I’d much rather be spending time with my family. I had about three months where I was out of work, so I got a taste of what that could be like. So if I had that kind of money I might downsize until to a point where I could do the kinds of things I want to do.

Assuming I kept working and still had access to unlimited funds, we still would have moved to be closer to work. The one hour commute twice a day just took too much more time away from family and personal interests.

When money is no longer an object, the object becomes time. If we could have a house and have money to pay someone else to take care of the lawn, the pool, the cleaning, and maintenance, so that we are not impacted by the time of this, then we might not have downsized our living space, and may have chosen another house.

Given that we don’t have unlimited funds or time, we are moving along our current path, and so far, we’re enjoying the increased freedom we are experiencing.

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