You decided you have too much clutter. You jump into cleaning out all the junk in your home, and you start to see some real improvement. You are feeling better about your home. You are looking forward to the freedom you’ll begin to feel in an uncluttered home. You want to share this joy with your family.
Then you hit a wall… you’re family isn’t interested.
What do you do? How do you get your family enthused about decluttering?
You’ve heard the saying, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.”
Decluttering is similar. “You lead your family to the mess, but you can’t make them declutter.” (Tweet this)
I found a good interim solution to this in Marie Kondo’s book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying-Up“. Marie suggests you declutter some more of your own stuff, and after experimenting, I agree.
It’s really easy to get caught up in decluttering and the joy that comes from a decluttered space. However, decluttering is a very personal experience, and it isn’t always readily accepted by even your closest family members. If you’ve tried talking to them and sharing everything you’ve learned, and they still aren’t interested, then it’s time to take your own decluttering to the next level.
Ignore the family clutter and refocus on your own clutter. Even in my case where I have already decluttered several times, I found areas where I could go deeper.
Just the other day I was feeling some frustration with my wife’s side of the closet and my daughter’s playroom. Instead of jumping on them to attack their clutter, I attacked some of my own. I found a drawer in my nightstand that had some stuff that didn’t belong there, most of which got tossed in the trash. I also did another walk through in my closet where I found a polo shirt and a t-shirt that I could declutter and donate.
I felt better immediately and the frustration with my family’s clutter disappeared. Give it a try next time you feel like jumping on your family members to declutter.